If You Lost Your Job Tomorrow, Would You Be Able To Cope?

By Chris Illuminati

My termination didn’t come as a complete surprise. A reasonable comparison to the
entire event is the slow spiraling of water down a bathtub drain after the plug is pulled.
The stopper yanked from my project months prior to the actual day of my dismissal — the
liquid filthy with unfulfilled promises from management and personal regrets circled
quickly before getting sucked down into the unknown called unemployment. My range of emotions over the situation — sadness, a sense of betrayal and a boatload
of anger — was common in people suffering from sudden job loss. But what I was surprised
to learn was that all of these intense emotions might have to do with my gender. According to a 2009 study published in the American Journal of Community
, losing a job is especially traumatic for men. The study saw a spike in
the cases of depression in unemployed men and the suicide rate among that group is double
that of men who are working. Dr. John Grohol, a psychologist and founder of
the leading mental health and psychology network psychcentral.com, confirmed those findings as accurate. “Men
tend to put much more of their own self-esteem and self worth into a job. They view their
job as a part of who they are as a person. Women tend not to put as much emphasis on a job
being a part of who they are as a person.” Unlike many, I was lucky
enough to see the writing on the wall and prepare for the gut punch about to knock the
wind out of my life. I spent the days before my dismissal mentally preparing for the
moment. All of the feelings and emotions felt oddly familiar, like I wasn’t just losing a job, but ending …read more    

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