This post was originally published on James Michael Sama’s blog.He is a writer, blogger, social media marketer and
on air/live event host based in Boston, Mass.Sure, we have all met
some women who seem to be more complicated than Chinese algebra. Even the famous Oscar
Wilde remarked: Women are meant to be loved, not understood.But, I do think
that as men, we over-complicate women because we expect them to be just like us.
It’s natural for anyone to project their own qualities onto others and become
confused when they don’t fit the mold, but once we step outside of ourselves and see
people as they are, and not as we are, our vision becomes clearer.
doesn’t matter what you say, it matters how she feels.
A woman’s honesty
to herself is unparalleled, because her self-esteem is rooted where it should be, in
herself. You can call her beautiful or sexy or gorgeous every single day, but if she
doesn’t feel it, it won’t get through to her.You need to make her
feel all of these things, and more. In fact, what you don’t say usually matters more
than what you do say. As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words.
work on logic, she works on emotion.
This is not to say that women are illogical or
don’t use logic in every day situations — often their thoughts and ideas are better
articulated than their male counterparts’. The point I’m trying to make here is that
a woman’s emotions will influence her actions more than a man’s would for
him.As men, society teaches us to keep our feelings hidden, so we don’t
acknowledge them as much, and therefore don’t act on them as women do.It
has always been seen as a negative for a man to be in touch with his ‘feminine
side,’ but when people say this, they’re typically referring to someone who is
more in touch with his own …read more